May 2013
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“Whenever I hear someone talking about how it’s wrong to have sex and sexiness in...”
– “Why YA Sex Scenes Matter,” Foz Meadows (via aimmyarrowshigh)
Yes, this!
April 2013
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“I think marriage in general is not a healthy institution in our society. If...”
– bell hooks (via queeraspie)
From Ms. Magazine Spring 2011 issue
(via quizzical-cat)
March 2013
4 posts
Fifty Things Wrong with Fifty Shades of Grey
silenceintheimpala:
anyankaleigh:
This is the second post in my series on BDSM and feminism. My challenge to myself was to make a list of 50 reasons why the widespread appreciation of 50 Shades of Grey is not so ideal, despite the fact that I generally think women enjoying sexually explicit material is a good thing. I thought it would be difficult to think of all those things while...
Racism and My Little Pony: A Critical Eye of...
chauvinistsushi:
Alright yes, I’m tired of sitting through this silently. I love MLP but it’s time to address the racefail. And yes racism can manifest itself in something as “harmless” as children programs. That’s where our isms starts you guise. Let’s define whiteness. It’s not white people, but a lot of white people have it (it’s part of white privilege). It’s the essence of racism, of...
January 2013
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fuck yeah sex education: Free online course on... →
foryoursexualinformation:
You still have time to sign up, and please do! Everything about this course is free. They provide the readings and everything. I am signed up and so ready to go. The course is also only five weeks long. The course starts on the 28th of January so that gives you…
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December 2012
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We need to talk about the Friendzone
yeti-detective:
How is this even a thing? I’m a dude. I get it. Girls can be scary. They look just like humans, but they make Weird Things happen in your pants-area. It must be magic. They are the Gargamels to your dick’s whatever-Smurf-your-dick-is.
(Sidenote: the makers of The Smurfs meant for each Smurf to represent a different kind of dick. There are 99 dick archetypes. Mine’s Vanity Smurf...
November 2012
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starkdisassembled:
Walking The Line Between Life And Death: tahlalaliaaa: ialreadysaidno: FOR AUSTRALIAN RESIDENTS. Give the above…
tahlalaliaaa:
ialreadysaidno:
FOR AUSTRALIAN RESIDENTS.
Give the above number (0450 352 004) out to men or anyone who doggedly persists in trying to get your number even after you’ve already said no.
SAVE THIS NUMBER IN YOUR PHONE FOR EASY RECALL!
We...
October 2012
6 posts
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“Why I don’t like Dan Savage’s “It Gets Better”... →
jennifergearing:
seekingwillow:
phanapoeia:
queerwatch:
“Why I don’t like Dan Savage’s “It Gets Better” project as a response to bullying
(Ten Points, in order of appearance)
1. The video promotes metro-centric and anti-religious sentiment. By aligning their bullying with the religiosity and “small-town mentality,” Dan and Terry tacitly reinforce the belief (especially rampant in queer...
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denaliwinter:
sailoralecs:
If anyone sees or hears from Kitty Stryker, please please stay with her and comfort her. She is going through a lot and is currently unreachable by phone.
Please please signal boost, and if you’re in the Bay Area, keep an eye out. It is thought that she might be headed for a bridge. :’(
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jennifergearing:
If I tell you I love you, there are lots of things that can mean, but the one thing it doesn’t mean is that I need you to love me back.
If you love me, I will do what I can to be worthy of it.
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“That demonstrations are so heavily, so rigidly, structured in the minds of the...”
– Writing Our Own History: Storming the Wimpy Bars - Sara Scott interviews Lilian Mohin
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orgasms & 'good bed behaviour'
Note: this rant is not about anyone in particular. So I have a vagina and I like orgasms. If I’m having sex with someone and they come, then I expect to come too. Apparently that’s not the case though - I worked out that approximately 80% of the people I’ve slept with have not cared whether or not I’ve had an orgasm, or have not wanted to help me achieve one. Now, I...
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September 2012
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“Femininity is depicted as weakness, the sapping of strength, yet masculinity is...”
– Gwen Sharp in Policing Mascuility in Slim Jim’s “Spice Loss” Ads
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“There’s a poisonous double standard in our society which says that it’s...”
– The Creepiness Question « shattersnipe: malcontent & rainbows (via sacet)
Example:
Judge To Woman Sexually Assaulted By Cop: ‘When You Blame Others, You Give Up Your Power To Change’
(via fuckyeahfeminists)
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Tone Argument
queerdictionary:
Definition
The tone argument is where someone ignores or minimises a statement because, so is then claimed, it was worded too angrily or in a manner deemed too confrontational.
This approach is a cop-out: it is a way for a commenter to try and dismiss a valid point without any further reflection on their part.
This approach is often used as a way of derailing, ignoring the...
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snazzy-lemon:
Voting While Trans
transaurus-rex:
Transgender people, the majority of whom have never had problems voting in the past, may now lose their right to vote due to dozens of new voter suppression laws. Over 25,000 transgender people could have their voting rights taken away. In response to these dubious new laws, we have released two resources to help transgender people reclaim...
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FUCK YEA VERY CUTE TRANS PARENTS →
genderfork:
we were vaguely cute for a little while but now we have upped the anti by being VERY CUTE!
trans mums, trans dads, non binary parents of all shapes, sizes and flavours are ACE!
we need submissions, testimonials, pictures, videos, texts and anything else inbetween..
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This blog is lovely. :)
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I debated whether or not to share this story.
TRIGGER WARNING: harassment, abuse.
unwinona:
And then I debated whether or not to put it on Tumblr…but I decided it was important. Because in my own way, I can (unfortunately) point out exactly what is wrong with men when they don’t realize how hard it is to be a woman. How we do not have equal opportunities and freedoms in everyday life. How most men, even good caring men, have no clue...
Doctor Who feminist-related feelings (*spoilers...
winifredjay:
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Well, I had enjoyed the episode before someone on the Internet described how it was anti-feminist. Fantastic. Up until this point I’d only had an inkling that the Dalek were out of character for taking human form. Maybe. But now, yes, I have to analyse the feminism in it too. Because Amy wasn’t annoying enough, it had to be because some man wrote her...
ileolai asked: Hi, I'm trans*. Comparing our issues to that of a fictional Dalek who thinks that it's human... No. Don't do that. Thanks.
Anonymous asked: 1. Flirting with the Doctor =/= worshipping the Doctor. 2. Oswin saved the Doctor before he saved her. 3. Not being able to have children is a legitimate, relationship-destroying issue IRL and a logical extension of the trauma Amy went through on Demon's Run. 4. We do have fierce, queer characters - River, Canton, Vastra, Jenny, and more. 5. as someone who has actually lived in psychiatric...
cas-get-into-my-ass asked: About the 'phase' thing: There are A LOT of people who go through a phase of homosexuality during their teens, and then go back to heterosexuality. I'm a bisexual girl, and it pissed me off when people told me I was going through a phase, but I could actually have been. Turns out, I wasn't, but I had many friends who had. So I'm not pissed about that, because it happens a...
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Doctor Who feminist-related feelings (*spoilers...
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So I have a lot of feelings about Asylum of the Daleks. Here they are in no particular order:
I don’t understand why Moffat thinks Strong Complex Female Characters somehow equals tired tropes of Ladies Who Love Babies. Babies are great, mothers are great, but a woman whose otherwise loving relationship with her husband is reduced entirely down to whether or not she can procreate...
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the girl who's still waiting:
tinydragongina:
thusspakekate:
nijimei:
gyzym:
okay so here’s the thing right about amy pond
when amy pond was a child her parents were murdered by a creature living in her house that she didn’t know about
that accessed her house by going through a hole in the fabric of the universe that she also didn’t know about
which altered her thoughts (to the point that she was later able to...
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morganna:
can we please talk about how moffat has introduced yet another female character that hasn’t had any power or knowledge about what has been done with her body
please
August 2012
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more lists
I realised that a lot of the stuff I do (volunteer work, activism, etc) includes giving back to the community (which I love, otherwise I wouldn’t do it), but it also takes energy from me. I need to take care of myself too, not just the community, and it’s taken me a long time to realise this and not feel guilty about it.
So I plan on having one day and one evening down time a week and...
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“You can consent to sex without consenting to other things. You can consent to...”
– Read/Reblog here
(via we-named-the-dog-indiana)
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notes for insomnia & anxiety
Things I can do:
Continue to read through The Happiness Trap and other ACT stuff. I really find that helps. Other links here, here and free resources here.
Listen to falling water noises (waterfalls, rain, thunder) while going to sleep.
Use mindful meditation in combination with ACT. e.g. this link and this link. Quote: ‘If a person does not feel relaxed, then they simply bring awareness...
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Incurable Hippie: Disability and Sexuality... →
takebacksexuality:
I have been doing some research on sex and disability, and thought I would share some of the links I have found. This will be useful for me in the future as a resource, and hopefully to others too.
Disability and Sex General Links
Disability Dharma: What Including & Learning From Disability Can Teach (Everyone) About Sex
How to Meet, Date and Have Sex When You’re...
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some thoughts on pronouns
Telling people your preferred pronouns can be really fucking difficult. They often have bad reactions, tell you it’s too difficult, or get defensive when you call them out. When someone tells me my preferred pronouns are too difficult or tricky or that they just can’t think of me like that, it kind of pisses me off. Because, you know, the fact I wake up in the morning and hate certain...
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“I’m queer. I have a lot of really wonderful friends who are of very different...”
– Ezra Miller, because this is the best thing I’ve read from a celebrity in a while. (via earlgreyandpeppermint)
Zefriend is my new favourite word. :)
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I am currently experiencing a ton of dysphoria re: my body (gender, trans*, genderqueer related). I’m going to be making some posts about that, reblogging and exploring, educating myself and seeing what information I can learn.
If anyone has any recommended links, please feel free to send them my way. :)
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on "loving your body."
onegirlrhumba:
(nb: edited from previous version for clarity and reposting it in revised form.)
i’m sick and fucking tired of pretending that “loving your body” and rejecting fat-shaming on an individual level does anything to change issues relating to beauty and thin privilege, or that it has any effect on the institutions and structures that perpetuate them. it does nothing to change the...
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“For many people, including transgender, genderqueer, and intersect people,...”
– Avory @ http://radicallyqueer.wordpress.com/2011/10/19/love-your-body-day-complex-body-relationships/ 